“I was full of grief and negativity.
Feeling out of control and in despair. I was just going through the motions but internally broken.
I now know what to do when I feel overwhelmed. I am able to recognise and call out my negative self-talk which makes every hour of every day more peaceful and positive.
Having someone to talk to who knows what it’s like but offers constructive support rather than pointless sympathy is a definite must in this situation.
You don’t have to be silent and alone anymore. I could say all the thoughts that were eating me alive out loud to someone who was listening, had been there and knew what to do. The weight off is huge.”
“I was stressed and anxious about our fertility journey as we were heading toward what will be our final treatment. My emotions were all over the place, I felt trapped and like I was on a merry go round.
I also wanted to get back that excited feeling I had when we went for our first treatment. I was fed feeling “oh, here we go again”.
The imagination session was very powerful too. It changed my mindset from “if I have a baby” to “when I have my baby”.
I’m far more positive about it and I’m feeling excited about the next treatment.
At the start of the journey, I never thought I would be where I am now.
Nicola is a great coach. She has such a calming personality and made me feel at ease from the first conversation we had.”
“I had lost hope and trust in my body and struggled in my social situations. Every month was getting harder and harder and I wanted to change.
I feel more positive and I feel like I understand myself better.
My relationship with my husband is better than ever. We talk far more about it and he’s become much better at recognising when I’m struggling. He’s also opening up to me, which makes me feel supported as I know he’s in this with me.
I wish everyone would have this opportunity, even just for life! Anyone going through fertility pain, needs to do this!
We all feel such similar pain but yet we feel alone. I had no idea what I was bottling up until I started with you. I don’t even want to think about where I’d be now if I hadn’t have done this.
It makes me feel so sad that I was so unhappy and didn’t even realise it. This has exceeded all my expectations and I’m confident that so many women will feel the same.”
“Last night I heard a family member was pregnant. At first I was disappointed at how sad and ashamed it made me feel as I thought I’d really made progress.
Then as I was going to sleep, I was able to choose a different thought and perspective. Not just as a self-help tactic, but one that was true and based in reality
“Her success is not my failure: they’re too separate things.
My negative self-talk Donald Trump voice is just lies- fake news trying to keep me small and in fear.” And it worked. “
“Before we began I was feeling hopeless.
I wouldn’t let myself feel hope because I felt like it would be too painful when things didn’t work out.
I was distancing myself from friends and family because I felt like that protected me but actually it meant that my support system was really reduced.
I wasn’t sure it would actually help and wondered if the tips would be things I’d already tried. I was definitely wrong.
I honestly feel like all areas of my life have improved, my relationships with my husband, friends and family and my mental health especially. I feel hopeful for the future for the first time in years. I feel strong and ready for whatever comes my way.
I think it’s support that everyone going through infertility could benefit from and that just isn’t available anywhere else.
I’ve really enjoyed our sessions and benefited way more than I imagined I would.”
“Nicola is kind, caring & knowledgeable.
Doing the fertility coaching with her helped me to think about how to enjoy my life (rather than just waiting to fall pregnant), she also helped me to think about how my ‘protective responses’ to a difficult fertility journey may be contributing to my body seeing pregnancy as somehow dangerous. We then worked through these defences together using hypnosis and by building coping strategies.
Following the course, I quickly fell pregnant and all is well in this pregnancy to date. I can’t thank Nicola enough and highly recommend her.”