Does your fertility struggle leave you feeling like you’re trapped in an emotional prison?
Meet Sarah. Sarah is in fertility fog. Sarah dreams of being a mum again. She has a 4-year-old son and she has been trying for another baby for 3 years.
Sarah feels so lost, like there is something missing from her life and family. She has overwhelming feelings of guilt. Guilt that her son desperately wants a brother or sister, guilt that she should be grateful for the child she has, guilt that her partner wants another baby.
All of Sarah’s mum friends have either had their second baby or they’re pregnant again. She hoped they would be going through this stage together again, but it hasn’t turned out that way. Sarah has distanced herself from these friends. It’s hard to hear them talk about how much harder it is to have 2 children compared to 1. They talk a about how tired they are and that they never have a minute to themselves. Sarah would give anything to be where they are.
Then that guilt kicks in again and Sarah feels like she’s not being a supportive friend. Distancing herself from these friends has caused Sarah to feel incredibly lonely and isolated. Like they are carrying on without her while she is stuck waiting.
Sarah is constantly thinking and worrying about age gaps, she calculates it every month and feels a mix of sadness and pressure that they won’t be as close in age as she wanted.
Sarah feels like a failure. She loves her family so much, but this isn’t how she imagined it.
Sarah knows it is affecting her emotional well-being, she isn’t as confident or happy as she used to be. She wants to feel differently but she doesn’t know how.
What if there was another way to cope with these difficult feelings? Something that would relieve the stress and anxiety that’s increasing, rebuild confidence that it is possible to deal with difficult situations without falling apart, and knowing life doesn’t have to be on hold.
If you’re thinking, yes, that’s me, that’s exactly what I need, then I want you to know the way you are feeling is not your fault, it can get better and improve your chances of fertility success. Send me a message if you’re ready for change.