Dany is the founder and creator of the Freedom Fertility Formula and here she is to explain how you can break the cycle of waiting and start living again.
Being forced to wait to see those two pink lines on a stick you’ve pee’d on (your partner has pee’d on), feels like hell on earth doesn’t it? I am not talking about the two minutes the test takes, although when you are struggling with infertility and your body (your partner’s body) is playing a game of hide your period which leaves you wondering if you could finally be pregnant, waiting that two minutes can feel never-ending as well can’t it?
Mainly though, I am referring to the months and years that some couples are forced to spend waiting, to finally get to see the result on that stick they are ‘praying’ for.
If you are Living in the Wait I know that it is is one of the hardest things you’ve ever had to do. It can test all of your relationships can’t it? You can become disconnected emotionally from your partner, it affects how you behave around your loved ones, your friends, your colleagues and how they behave around you. It even impacts on how you interact with strangers doesn’t it?
Whilst everyone is different in terms of what they can and can’t cope with infertility impacts on every single part of your life, nothing is quite the same without your longed for baby. Worse, the wondering if you will ever get your longed for baby can be crippling.
In some way shape or form you are putting your life on hold and not only are you living in the wait, you are WAITING TO LIVE.
Here’s the really important thing I want you to know.
In the place you are in right now though I am pretty sure that you only see one way out, which is getting to the day when you can hold your healthy baby in your arms with the knowledge that the nightmare is over.
Unfortunately, though I know from having spoken to many who have had to deal with infertility that it can continue to haunt you throughout pregnancy, especially if you have already experienced loss. Even if you haven’t though every twinge, every change, can have alarm bells ringing can’t it?
Parents who have had an infertility struggle share with me that the fears are ever lingering after their baby is born too. Having worked also with pregnancy, birth and early parenting for many years I know that those fears are different to the general concerns that most parents might have.
Freedom Fertility clients handle their onward journey of Pregnancy to Parenthood differently though, because they have learnt how to break F.R.E.E. from the downward cycle of despair caused by their fertility journey BEFORE becoming pregnant.
So let’s get back to your fertility journey now because that is where you are currently at and there are two things I want you to know in relation to that?
I appreciate though that when we are in a place of deep pain it is not always possible to see a way forward. This is why I have created Freedom Fertility First-Aid™ which is your preparation step towards cracking the code of the F.E.R.T.I.L.E. Mind. which we do using the Freedom Fertility Formula™.
What Freedom Fertility First-Aid™ does is to introduce you to the concept of what it means to be F.R.E.E. – ‘Feel Right Emotional Empowerment’.
Freedom Fertility First-Aid™ is much like traditional first aid except it specifically relates to your emotional well-being. The purpose therefore of this session is to show you how to stem the flow of mental anguish in order to stop further damage, until you are able to work more deeply on your mental and emotional well-being, which will then support your physical well-being and enhance fertility success. Much like a First-Aider bandaging a broken arm to stop more damage before getting further medical help, or stemming the flow of blood from a wound prior to stitches.
During your Freedom Fertility First-Aid™ session you will share with your Freedom Fertility Specialist the biggest impacts that your fertility journey has had on your life. This is therapeutic in itself because you will be sharing with someone who knows how to listen. However, Freedom Fertility First-Aid™ aims to go way beyond just helping you to feel better whilst you are with your Freedom Fertility Specialist. You will also learn a very simple and powerful way to ensure that you always have a way to feel emotionally in control, no matter what is going on in your life at the time. This is the first step in your working relationship with your Freedom Fertility Specialist, but in no way commits you to going any further.
Freedom Fertility First-Aid™ will provide you with an incredibly powerful ‘Coping Mechanism’. However, much like you wouldn’t expect your broken arm to set right without expert care, or for a gaping wound to remain free of infection if left, you don’t want to see it as a long term strategy for being able to live a more fulfilling life in the wait. It also alone won’t be able to give you everything you need to support the mind/body connection that enhances fertility success.
Feel Right Emotional Empowerment™ is designed to continually give all the power back to you. Your Freedom Fertility Specialists will work with you from a state of belief that you know how to handle and resolve all challenges that may come up in your life. That you have all of the answers within you as to what is right for you on your fertility journey and for your life, even if those answers appear to be obscured, concealed or hidden inside right now.
The skill of your Freedom Fertility Specialist lies, in them knowing the right questions to ask you, and having the right tools and techniques to help you to find those answers within yourself.
You are your own best expert with regards to knowing what you need on your fertility journey and what is right for YOU. Your Freedom Fertility Specialist is an expert in making you that you have the right F.R.E.E. Strategy to complement that. As such, they will help you to discover what your own personal way for living life positively whilst trying for a baby, looks like.
I don’t need to tell you that struggling with fertility issues can become overwhelming, you are living that overwhelm on a daily basis. Many of my clients have likened their fertility struggles to being trapped in an emotional prison, from which it is hard to escape. Their partners feel equally trapped but they are stuck on the outside, often hiding their own pain and feeling helpless and not knowing what to do. Working with a Freedom Fertility Specialist helps to F.R.E.E. both you and your partner, by enabling you to reconcile being able to focus positively on your life once again, whilst holding onto your dream of having a baby.
There is an added bonus to working with a Freedom Fertility Specialist which is that they will feel like having a Best Buddy Who ‘Gets It’. This is an incredibly powerful bonus to have because infertility can be very isolating can’t it? It’s tough, it’s cruel and it’s debilitating, and even when you do share your journey people don’t normally get it do they? Sometimes they may be really obviously uncomfortable if you try and tell them what you are going through, which can make you feel even worse can’t it? Others may throw out some useless platitudes which exasperate you. The worse ones I think you will agree, are the people that think it’s appropriate to give you advice. I know many of my clients have said that this has them wanting to scream in the person’s face, “so you are suddenly a beeping expert in infertility are you?”
Your Freedom Fertility Specialist not only knows how to listen to make sure you feel heard, they also know how to guide you without telling you what to do, and they know how to ask you all of the right questions to help you uncover the answers that are already there deep down inside of you. They will also be available via text/email and the occasional call if required between sessions, at no additional cost because I am sure you will agree, it’s no good having a Best Buddy Who ‘Gets It’ if you can’t contact them when you need.