About

You just want to be a mum

Hi, I’m Nicola.

My own difficult fertility journey is what led me to want to support you though yours.

I’ve heard the insensitive comments “are you pregnant yet? You’re not getting any younger”. Then “when are you going to give your son a brother or sister, he obviously wants one”.

I’ve distanced myself from friends and their new babies. It was too hard to hear the complaints about sleepless nights and not being able to breastfeed.

I’ve been to my 12-week scan and had the devastating news that there was no heartbeat.

I felt on a downward spiral. Getting worse month after month.

Then I learnt how to let go of what was holding me back and regain hope.

“I felt like I was being left behind. I was watching my life fall apart around me because of my own self destruction. I was letting my infertility take over my life and sucking the joy out of it, too. I knew something needed to change.

Life is different now because I feel like I'm not letting my infertility define me. I'm finally happy for my friends when they announce their pregnancies and I can be around my friend’s children again. I've regained my hope that I had fully lost. And most importantly, I know my family is coming!”

AK,

USA

Had enough of being told to “just relax”? This is for you.

What is it you do exactly?

I support women who are struggling to have a baby to change. I can help you change the way you’re thinking and feeling about yourself, your life and your fertility.

I can support you to:
Deal with your difficult emotions so you can start living life the way you want to.

Let go of the anxiety about where the next pregnancy announcement is coming from.

Find a natural, pain free option before exploring other medical routes.

Allow yourself to imagine the future you want, without the overwhelming fear of disappointment.

How is this different?

So much fertility advice is about what you can do physically to improve chances of pregnancy. But where’s the emotional support? The advice for reducing the stress and anxiety TTC causes? Support for the grief of miscarriage as well as the dream you have which isn’t happening the way you planned?

This is something I found to be lacking for a long time. But when I found it, it made all the difference.

Imagine having someone in your corner who gets it, who listens, who doesn’t try to fix you (because you’re not broken). Someone who cares what happens to you, not just while we’re working together, for always.

I’ve tried so many things, will this work?

Nothing can guarantee pregnancy (if it does it’s 100% best avoided).

This is different because the aim is to improve how you’re feeling and thinking about your fertility (and yourself).

That way, you can start living life the way you want, instead of life being on hold while you wait.

The good thing is, living your life and feeling hopeful again improves chance of pregnancy success.

This programme isn’t only about pregnancy. It’s about feeling like you again. Learning how to let go of the emotional blocks, stress and anxiety that are only getting worse.

I’ve had a miscarriage; how will this help me?

I know the pain of miscarriage. The loss of the future you dreamt of and what will never be.

I can’t change what happened. But I can support you to remove the difficult feelings attached.

To stop it from having such a negative impact on how you’re feeling now and on your future.

This is one of the most powerful sessions. I’ve felt it myself and I see it with the women I work with.

Releasing the fear of being pregnant again. Letting go of the anxiety about the same thing happening, so it can’t hold you back any longer.

How would it feel to release those difficult feelings? So, you could get back to a place of hope. And even look forward to being pregnant again.

I’ve never done anything like this before, I’m feeling nervous about getting in touch.

My sessions are so relaxed (fun even). I know reaching out for support is a big step. I’ve been there too and I know it can feel scary.

If you’re thinking this could be for you, feel free to ask me any questions you have.

Getting in touch doesn’t mean you’re committed to anything.

It’s a great way to find out if my sessions (and me) are the right fit for what you’re looking for.

This sound like exactly what I need, what do I need to do next?

Amazing! I’m so pleased this speaks to you, as it did to me. The next step is to drop me a message, you can use the link below.

Then we can arrange your FREE 30-minute chat. This is your way of finding out how you can shift negative thinking so you can believe in your happy ending.