Thank you so much for your reply Jennifer! I really feel for you, pregnancy loss on top of infertility is so cruel. I post some things on my facebook and instagram which I hope would be helpful with how you are feeling. Mainly they are about getting the mind and body to work together to get the outcome you want. You have nothing to feel guilty about, you have not chosen for things to be this way. Sending so many positive wishes that another miracle comes your way. Nicola x
I’m so glad I found this post. It is always relieving to know that you are not alone, and someone else has felt the same exact way. We have a five year old boy who desperately wants a sibling. I’m also a dental hygienist that sees around 9 patients a day, and I’m constantly being asked daily when number two is coming. I had one patient even tell me “it should be illegal to not give that boy a sibling.” The guilt and the stress of it all is very overwhelming and I’m trying not to lose hope. Thank you for this post!
Hi Katie, thank you so much for your message. I really feel for you it’s so hard when people make insensitive comments isn’t it, if only they knew.
I hope you know you have nothing to feel guilty about because what you’re going through is not your fault.
It is so stressful and overwhelming, I hope you’re getting support with how you’re feeling as it’s so important. If you have any questions or want to know more about the work I do please let me know. It was after my own experience that I trained to support others on their fertility journeys. I know how painful it is and how much these strategies helped with the stress and anxiety I was feeling.
Thank you so much for your kind words about my post. Nicola x
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I would agree with all of the above. Beautifully put. I would add that I also felt guilty for wanting a second baby so badly when so many others struggle just to have one. We never managed to have a second child and it took a long time to get over the loss. At the same time, you don’t want those difficult feelings to overshadow the joy and delight you have ver your firstborn’s childhood.
Thank you so much for this. It’s always good to know that other people feel the same.
Thank you so much for your reply Fiona. Guilt is everywhere when it comes to infertility isn’t it?
It is definitely loss of the dream of how you wanted life to be and there is a grieving process that goes along with that. I hope you have yourself the time and space to do that (with no guilt attached).
Thank you for your kindness works about my post, I’m also glad to know I wasn’t alone in feeling that way. Nicola x